What to do when you feel overwhelmed?

We are often overwhelmed by demands, projects, unexpected problems or any related issues that will take our time away while increasing our daily amount stress. This is a common situation where we want to give our best to do everything or help everybody only by ourselves, disconsidering any help or delegating it for someone else, maybe because we assume that we are strong and capable enough to handle it or that we are the only ones that can reach the best result and no one would be able of doing it.

Centralize everything is a common mistake and must be avoided, even if do our best to reach 100% of accomplishment, we might hit 99% and people will talk about that 1% missed and maybe point fingers at you asking about that 1% but forgetting about the others 99% accomplished, on the same time, sense of guiltiness and low self-esteem will rise without a real reason.

Keeping our heads down working as much as we can without paying any attention to the environment we are in is not a good choice, we must stop, lift up our heads and observe both internal and external trends, understand the unique information and perspective that our function provides and define its impact on the corporate level strategy or even in our lives. Considering our capabilities and objectives we must seek and find similar people that would be capable of handling our tasks and responsibilities in order to decentralize it.

Demand decentralization allows people to maintain focus on the big picture, avoiding being bothered or distracted by minor tasks, and to focus on new or already expected responsibilities.

When decentralizing, the following elements must be considered:

Trust – Choosing the right person to handle one of your responsibilities is a complex process, having a relationship of trust with him/her is a major aspect that can drive you either to success either to failure. We must learn do abdicate our insecurities and create the sense of letting go, only like this we will be able to delegate tasks, projects and responsibilities. Trust is not blindly given, it must be built over time.

Availability & Knowledge – The people who will receive the demand must have the trust and confidence from you, knowing they are empowered to make decisions and that you will back them up in any adversity. In this case you must be ready for any cases of doubts or emergencies, always giving the right direction based on the main objectives.

Communication – A clear and precise communication is needed, it’s important to put the right reasons to do it and especially the “why” behind it. After delegating, ask the person to tell you what she understood in order to see if really matches your expectations.

Planning – Delegating is not just giving away your previous task or responsibility, it’s a way of making others to help you, it requires follow-ups and a communication plan, things can not be loose and unclear. People can not operate by their own.

Patience – It takes strength to let go, sometimes the process can be slow due to unexpected reactions from people or even lack of understanding the demand and its priority. Be patient, understand the aspects that needs improvement and find new ways of reaching your objective.

No one has the cognitive capacity, the physical presence or the knowledge of everything happening around themselves to effectively lead or heading to success. Pushing the right demands to the right people can become a unique ability that can drive you to success, this will happen often due to experience, and you’ll know when achieving it when people feel happy when being involved in the things you are part of.

Art: Untitled,ca. 1948–49 – Jackson Pollock

How to achieve greatness?

Behavior change, reaching objectives, overcoming barriers or anything related to these might be considered daily challenges for most of us, but this can become easier if we accept the reality and embrace the challenges that will come.

The most common situation that I’ve noticed is that most people set huge goals or decisions for their lives in a short period of time, such as losing 14 kilos in 4 months, running a marathon in less than 1 year of trainning, start triathlon to do a full Ironman or even start a business immediately without any plans or researches. The issue here is that you are starting from scratch and trying to reach that far objective as fast as you can avoiding or disconsidering any type of barriers like bad days, disappointments and mistakes.

We are living in a society where everybody appears to be better and happier than you, and that achieving goals seems to be pretty easy, but in real life things are not like this, it involves a lot of struggle, sweat, blood and tears, and if people tell you that things are easier than you think, they are lying to you.

A few things must be considered while setting goals or facing challenges and barriers, first of them is to Think Like a Ship, because ships don’t change their directions so fast or in a abrupt way, every decision is well though and made in small degree adjustments in its direction and speed. To turn or to stop a ship you must think about it way before doing it and execute it in small steps until it really happens. Thinking like that you can consider that the small actions in your life will drive you to change and to achieve your objectives, small actions like waking up early, choosing the right food, or dedication at least 30 minutes or 1 hour of your day to studying can really change your life path. What is 1 hour of study compared to at least 3 hours of social media wasted during the day? Chose What is Right!

Embrace the Suck! Stop expecting that life will get better or easier, accept that life is a fight regardless of what you are doing, start building mental toughness and get stronger to face all adversities that will be thrown in your way. If you want to achieve success nothing will be or ever get easier.

“Do not pray for easy lives. Pray to be stronger men.” – John F. Kennedy

Eagles don’t fly with pigeons. Have you ever thought if the people around you are telling you good things? Or are they just putting more negativity and barriers to discourage yourself be the your best version? Surround yourself with people that will unleash who you are capable of.

Set Small Goals. Try to do the basics before doing the most outrageous accomplishment, why thinking about doing an Ironman or a Marathon if you don’t even run three times a week? First you must adapt your mind and body for a new routine, it’s easier to accomplish running once a week and then increasing to twice and then to three times. Remember that it takes 21 days to form a new habit, and it must fit inside your routine that is already full of tasks, that’s reason we must always Prioritize and Execute.

If you define big and outrageous goals, it will be easier to quit since it feels to be so far away from what you can do at this moment.

Take small steps every day toward your goals and don’t stop for any reason, only like this you will achieve greatness.

Picture: Took this photo of FDNY Engine 54 / Ladder 4 / Battalion 9 and it’s amazing flags remembering some of their roots and the fallen heroes.

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